Archive for October, 2010
Distance
They say “distance makes the heart grow fonder.” I think that’s true in a lot of situations. But I also think that “distance shows you who your true friends are.” A lot of people go through my head while thinking about this, but I’ll only talk about three.
Person A is a close friend from high school, who recently got out of a dating relationship, which ended pretty roughly. Even though we go to schools very close to each other, we haven’t seen each other very frequently. We had talked a few times about the end of the dating relationship, and I could tell that they were hurting pretty badly, but they didn’t want very much help from anyone. So when they asked if we could go to dinner to hang out, part of me was surprised. But it turned into one of the best experiences both they and I needed at that point in our friendship. They texted me later that night after dinner saying it was awesome to hang out again after a few months, and that we needed to hang out more often, “just like the old times.”
Person B is also a friend from high school. We used to be good friends, but they went to college out of state, and we’ve pretty much lost contact. We Facebook or text each other every few weeks, but it’s just not the same. They’ve moved on in a different direction, and while I’m very glad to see them happy, there are times where I wish we could still be friends. But I’m coming to realize that, at least for now, it’s better for us to not be such close friends.
Person C is, again, a close friend from high school. They also go to school out of state, but I’ve been able to go visit them a few times. We basically consider ourselves siblings. And even though we might not have talked to or texted each other in several weeks, we just pick up right where we left off. There’s never a dull moment when we’re together, whether we’re laughing about experiences from high school, or swapping stories from our time in college. They’re the kind of person that makes me miss high school.
College is weird like that, I guess. It weeds the true friends out from the group of just “friends.” But that’s healthy. (To be continued. Eventually.)